The Day I Discovered My Different
I grew up in the suburban wilderness of New England. Among the pine trees, apple groves and fragrant lilacs. Each of the small-town roads woven from one predominantly white neighborhood to the next.
In school, I was almost always the only black child in my classroom. Sometimes I was the only black child in my entire grade and school. For a long time, this was not unusual to me. I wouldn't even think about how different my skin made me. In many ways, I think my innocence had protected me from the feelings of loneliness, fear, and self-consciousness that quickly inundate our senses the moment we discover we're are different.
Like, really different.
I remember the day I discovered my different. I was alone in my bedroom, probably journaling or writing a short story, when I saw it.
I had held out my small hand so it showed in the light. I rotated it slowly. Examining its every curve and wrinkle. Seeing my long fingers, my deep nail beds, and the veins that sat just below the surface. Then I saw my brown skin, holding it all together.
I remember thinking “My skin looks so different from everyone else’s skin. Why am I so different?” And then it happened.
I wept big, round, elephant tears.
Alone in my bedroom, without warning, and with my whole heart – I cried. Maybe it was because I knew that I could no longer live in my ignorant bliss. Maybe it was because I had uncovered a harsh realization that should have stayed buried for just a few more years. Maybe I cried because I knew that I couldn’t change me, even if I wanted to. I would always be different, and my skin was a physical reminder of that lonely divide.
Now don’t get me wrong. To this day, I have never WANTED to be white. I am only mentioning that because I don’t want anyone assuming that’s the case.
I simply didn’t understand why I had to be SO different from my classmates.
Sure, I'm still curious sometimes. I think about many times about how my life might be different if my skin were white. I wonder what it would be like being treated like someone with white skin.
Would I still be followed around in stores?
Would store managers comment on how “surprisingly good” my credit score is? (Yup - true story. This actually happened to me at the Banana Republic in a New Hampshire Mall.)
Would they call me “Entitled,” and tell me how they “Can see why people would call me privileged?” Also both true and sadly recent stories.
For some reason, I have the sinking suspicion that these things wouldn’t have happened to me if I was white. Maybe I’m wrong, but these are my honest thoughts nonetheless.
" She is the treasure of her tribe. The legacy of the men and women before her. She is the beauty, grace, and love of her mother and her mother’s mother. "
I look back on that little girl. I see her silent tears, and I weep for and with her. She did not yet know of the power that lies in her luminescent skin. She hadn't learned about the rich history that has been woven into the royal fabric of her story. She hadn’t yet been told the legacy of courageous, wise, selfless and loving women who proceeded her.
She is the treasure of her tribe. The legacy of the men and women before her. She is the beauty, grace, and love of her mother and her mother’s mother.
I AM MY ANCESTORS WILDEST DREAMS!
A once hope of my people, now realized. AND SO ARE YOU!
Our "different" is our power! Use your different to make a difference in the world! You don't have to any longer wait to share your story, lift your voice and leave a legacy.
We have been strategically placed in an era desperate for love, empathy, and more fearless pioneers. We have been given the honor, blessing, and burden of empowering the voices of women to rise up and be heard! Black, white, brown, yellow, red, and each of the beautiful colors in between.
If I could go back to that room, I would stand beside that little girl. I would warmly embrace her, then look her in the eyes and say:
“Wipe your tears baby girl. You are His beautiful creation! A work of art! Now, we don’t have much time, and we’ve got some important work to do.”
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First published on my LinkedIn profile
I’ve always been intrigued by my physical features. Big luscious lips, high cheek bones, warm chocolate skin, brown almond-shaped eyes, small ears, elegant collar bone, long legs & limbs, curly brown hair, slender frame, athletic build. Gosh…it’s such an interesting combination.
In recent years, my curiosity has only grown. So this year, for Christmas, I took the leap and purchased a 23andMe genealogy test for myself in an effort to learn more about the melting pot that is my genetic makeup.
CLICK HERE TO TAKE THE 23ANDME TEST FOR YOURSELF!
Note: My best friend is a scientist, and she shared with me her perspective on completing these sort of tests and the potential danger in giving these companies complete access to your precious DNA. I’m only saying this because it is a serious decision that you should consider before you spit in the tube (like I did).
I wanted to share my ancestry composition on this MLK day to show that I am proud of who I am. Honored to be in a country that my ancestors endured through pain and trials to build. Proud of the men and women of all races who have taken their stands for justice, freedom and equality. Who have made a positive difference in the world we now live in.
First - I was pleasantly surprised when my results stated that I am 100% Anastasia (Wooo…that was a close call. Glad I finally have that in writing).
I am also…
82% West African
12% European (British & Irish)
2% East Asian & Native American
<1% South Asian
If I’m honest, my first response to seeing my results was pure shock. I was SHOCKED that I was over 82% West African. I actually thought “Wow. What am I doing HERE then?”
I was also shocked that I am more European than Native American! 12%?! That’s a lot!
After my initial shock came the bittersweet realization that the area of West Africa my ancestors are from also was a huge target in the slave trade…which it answered my initial question “What am I doing here?”
I know these percentages are just numbers on a screen. But if I am honest with myself, they are more than that to me. They begin to tell a story that has been untold to me for so long. I picture each of my ancestors at my age, 28, and wonder what life they had lived in their generation. What joy they had, what trials they endured, what their hopes and dreams were. And if, in some way, I am living them out in my life – all these generations later.
I don’t want to dwell in the past. Not at all. But I do want to use the past as motivation, and continue to look forward. I want to continually dedicate my hands, my voice and my heart to the labor of building an ever brighter, fuller future for the generations of loved ones to follow.
No matter where in the world they will one day call home.
“And David realized that the Lord had established him as king over Israel, and that he had exalted his Kingdom for the sake of His people Israel.”
…and David realized…
In the midst of David’s seemingly inevitable and long overdue rise to Kingship. In the midst of all his great growth and the exultation of his people…he came to this powerful realization:
That all of this.
Everything that had happened in, to and through him.
All of the enemies he had defeated.
All of the enemies that tried to defeat him.
All of those long days in the hot sun watching over the bleating sheep.
All of it.
HIS ENTIRE LIFE!
…all led to this simple and powerful realization. The He (God) would be exalted or the sake of His people Israel.
I believe, in that moment, that realization became a “true north” for David. I also believe, that these same deep and powerful realizations are waiting to be realized in our own lives, our own hearts and our own minds. They are waiting to be lived out in real time, like David’s was.
If you don’t already know your deep purpose. Your true north. Or, if you have been given a glimpse into it but don’t yet have the full picture…
MY PRAYER FOR YOU (US) IN 2018
My prayer is that you seek it out. My prayer is that the Lord would open your eyes, your ears, and your hearts to it starting now, and extending into the year to come. And once you know. Once you have realized what “it” is, I pray that you would have the courage to do something about it. That you would share it with your family and friends. That you would write it down on paper. That you would remind yourself of it day-and-night. That you would allow that truth to be your true north, and remain unshaken when you get a little turned around or lost in your own achievements and trials.
I am in awe how the Holy Spirit can speak to our hearts in different, yet powerful ways when reading the same chapters.
This was my second time reading 2 Samuel 5. There were so many things that stood out to me when I read it yesterday that I just knew in my heart that the Lord would reveal something else to me about it today – and I am so glad this was the case. I am glad that He did.
I hope you have the opportunity to read this chapter as well. If you do, leave a comment! I would love to read about some of the things that stood out to you most.
I once read that “Artists must account for their disappearances.”
I can’t exactly remember where I read it…but I believe it was in a book either by Mokoto Fujimura, Austin Kleon or Paul Arden…I’ll figure it out and update this post later J
Well, today I am accounting for my recent disappearance.
It’s the holiday season (my favorite time of year), so I totally understand if most of you probably didn’t realize I was even less active on social media than usual over this past month…and for those of you who did notice – here is my artists account:
Over the past week and a half, I’ve been behind closed doors creating new ways to use my art! I created a survey in order to gather my family and friends input on their interest in blogging. I worked with a coach to finish building out my Blog Like A Boss curriculum (Nyrka Riskin is a wiz). I have gained 3 paying clients who I am working with 1:1 to pour all of my expertise and knowledge into. I have also begun building out a 1-day Blog Like A Boss workshop (if you’re interested in learning more about this workshop give me a shout out here!)
Yup, I’ve been up to quite a bit! Working hard to launch my formal blogging business and guiding newbie bloggers through the often messy waters of launching blogs of their own. Ultimately encouraging them to Blog Like A Boss!
My passion and hope is to help as many people as possible find and articulate their unique gifts and experiences, and share them in a way that makes others (and ultimately the world) a better place.
I know that starting a blog, something so public and personal, can be a bit scary. In fact, that is the most common question/concern that I field in regards to blogging.
"Isn’t it concerning/strange to put so much out there on the internet?"
When we talk through it, I usually encourage future bloggers by saying:
“As much as you feel comfortable with…allow yourself to be seen & heard."
As much as you feel comfortable with…allow yourself to be seen & heard. Letting the world see the unique gifts and passions inside of you. Sharing your thoughts, experiences and encouragements with others both inside and outside of your current spheres of influence. Blogging is about leaving a legacy, and sharing your dreams and hopes with others who may one day become a part of your journey.
Blogging has been one of my greatest gifts. The Lord has given me the sweetest, and kindest interactions with people that I have never met – all through my willingness to be vulnerable and share parts of my story with others who are working through similar things in their own journeys.
I once heard that some of the best and most rewarding experiences are scary at the start: new jobs, first kisses, potentially life-threatening travel adventures, making new friends, having difficult but necessary conversations, marriage proposals, having children…I could go on-and-on.
The same is true for blogging.
You want to hear the secret to Blogging Like A Boss? You ready? It’s going to really blow your minds!
So, what's the big secret to blogging?
The secret to blogging like a boss is – you. Yes, you! Your passions, your dreams, your hopes, your essence is the secret sauce that will make your blog beautiful! Your unique combination of experiences and life lessons is what makes your digital space its own momentary respite for a future reader who wants, and maybe even needs, to hear your inspiring voice.
Welp, now that the secrets out – I hope you will embark on your own blogging journey in 2018! And I hope that you will trust me to be your guide along the way, because I’m all in!
Want to learn more about blogging? Check out my book Blog Like A Boss: The beginners guide to next-level blogging on any platform in the Amazon Kindle store. It’s a short read (about 30 kindle pages) and may even help answer some of your burning blogging questions!
Growth, true growth, happens over time.
Success, true success, is developed over time.
As the muscles in our bodies must tear in order to grow back stronger, so too must we encounter trials, hardships and successes in order to grow stronger still.
When we find ourselves in a difficult season, whether in life or career, let's encourage one another to steady.
When we find ourselves in a high season, and it seems like everything is going right, let's encourage one another to steady.
Steady our hearts.
Steady our minds.
Steady our actions.
Let us not allow ourselves to become so overwhelmed by our trials that we neglect to recognize the trials for what they really are...unique opportunities for growth.
Let us not allow ourselves to become so arrogant in our successes that we neglect to recognize those moments for what they really are...unique opportunities for growth.
What's the not so secret ingredient for continual personal and professional growth?
Thanksgiving - the time of year for obligatory overstuffing, spending quality time with the people you love, resting and meditating on all of the things that you are infinitely thankful for. Even though most of us tend to overlook the origin of this day of feasting, it has always been, and continues to be, one of my all-time favorite holidays.
Growing up, my entire family would travel from all over the east coast to spend time together. Cooking, eating, laughing, and catching up on each others lives at a noise level that far exceeded the 60 decibel average of a normal conversation.
We also made the annual mecca to celebrate my grandmothers birthday, November 22nd, and often fell on or around Thanksgiving day. There was always so much to celebrate, and we sure did make the most of the occasion.
Over the past few years following the passing of my grandmother and grandfather, my family has had an increasingly difficult time coordinating these Thanksgiving gatherings like we so organically did when my grandparents were alive. Sometimes family dynamics change, and without a matriarch or patriarch present, a new rhythm can form - but we each know that the love is always there!
"The food to people ratio for this years Thanksgiving was ideal."
As a single woman in my late twenties, Thanksgivings over the past few years have looked a bit different for me. Nevertheless, they have all been marked with quality time spent among people I love and cherish. I am beyond blessed to say that I have been given the opportunity to spend this Holiday with framily (a word I reserve for friends who are like family).
This year, instead of Thanksgiving party hopping (a food tour which I tend to do so well), my bff Alyssa and I decided to have a super chill Thanksgiving. We crafted a menu that consisted of our absolute favorite Thanksgiving dishes, cooked them up and spread everything out on the table all at once, community style!
Here are a few pictures of the massive spread we created!
Now, I must admit, the food to people ratio for this years Thanksgiving was more than ideal. And you better believe we made the most of it!
WHAT'S ON THE MENU!
We also watched one of my all-time favorite Holiday movies, The Family Stone. If you haven't seen it, I strongly recommend searching through the $5 dvd bin at War-Mart or buying it on iTunes.
"I am keenly aware of the Lords many mercies in my life. And I am grateful for them all!"
THINGS I'M THANKFUL FOR THIS YEAR!
There are so many things to be thankful for! I would be truly remiss if I didn't share with you some of the wonderful reasons why I am so incredibly thankful.
I am keenly aware of the Lords many mercies in my life. And I am grateful for them all! What a truly good Father he is, and has always been, to me. Keeper of my heart, protector of my life, provider of all my needs - My Lord is everything and more to me. I quite literally cannot tell my story without the frequent mention of His name.
My Loved Ones
I have been blessed with some of the most amazing friends, family and positive influences in my life. People who I respect deeply, who are loving, caring and encouraging. Who believe the best in me, and teach me new things about the love of God. We grow together. Navigate life together. Trust each other, and celebrate one another. I count myself lucky to know you!
My Art & My Readers
Over the past year, my love for writing has continued to grow. I am learning more and more that writing requires a level of courage and vulnerability. Enough vulnerability to verbalize what's in your heart, passions, questions, challenges and experiences. And enough courage to share those things with the world, regardless of what others might (and will) say. There is also a dash of hope mixed into that equation. Hope that your courage and vulnerability will be received by just one person who needed to hear it. I am infinitely grateful for this gift of art!
I am so grateful for each of my loved ones and friends who engage with my art! You are some of the kindest, most encouraging people on this here planet and I am beyond blessed by you. Thank you for your positive words, and how you so willingly share your hearts and thoughts with me. Trusting me with your experiences, lessons and truths. I love you always!
Wow, time flies! It has been over a year and a half since I bought my house. This space has been a sanctuary of sorts, an introverts haven, a comforting and peaceful home and one of my all-time, greatest investments! I am blessed to have been able to buy a home so early on in life, and I hope to continue stewarding this precious gift as best I can!
If you can, write down all that your heart is meditating on this Thanksgiving season. Don't be shy in recording why you are grateful for these things either. Another year will come and go, and you will forever be reminded of the good and perfect gifts you have been given in this season.
Welp, gotta go! These left overs are calling me ;)
I hope this parting letter finds each of you well. I am infinitely proud of you. My heart and hope is that you have allowed your time in higher education to stretch and grow you as a leader, and have postured yourself to learn as much from engaging with your fellow classmate as you have from reading your assigned textbook.
As a final letter, I wanted to share with each of you a few of the greatest lessons that I have learned (am continue to learn) thus far throughout my collegiate and professional career (these are listed in no particular order). I hope these tips will be helpful to you in navigating your own unique journey!
1. NEVER STOP LEARNING:
Be intentional about dedicating time to continue reading and researching new things. Share the new knowledge you learn with others, you never know what a simple tip could unlock in someone else's journey.
2. CONTINUE BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS
Though the time sitting among your fellow classmates has come to an end, I encourage you to continue connecting with others who are willing to share their experiences and lessons with you. Learn from them, and use this knew knowledge to help you make more informed decisions in your own life. You don’t always have to make the mistakes yourself in order to learn from them.
3. LISTEN TO THE LORD'S WHISPERS
He is always speaking to us, comforting us, encouraging us when we need it most (and especially when we don’t think we need it at all). Find time to listen. Become sensitive to the guiding of the Holy Spirit in your self-reflection time, personal relationships and professional careers.
"I challenge you to spend the rest of your life finding ways to serve others with the gifts that you have so graciously been given..."
4. TRY. FAIL. LEARN.
Have a new idea you want to try? A new book you want to write? A new product you want to launch? A new job you want to take? Go ahead - try it! But first, take time to prayerfully consider it. You can also invite trusted friends and mentors into the process of accomplishing that goal (because who wants to go it alone anyway). This life is short. Never let the fear of failure stop you from creating something new!
5. LET EVERYTHING YOU DO POINT BACK TO GOD
This is right up there with the best advice that I can possibly give to each of you. Let everything you say, do, and become point graciously back to the One who gave it all for you - for us. The one who did so willingly and without remorse. Cling to His promises, and regularly reflect on if the things you are creating, the success you are pursuing are motivations for doing so are in line with this His mission and His will for us.
This life is short. Never let the fear of failure stop you from creating something new!
6. USE YOUR EDUCATION WISELY
You have been given the wonderful gift of a formal education. Never take that for granted. There are people around the world who spend their whole lives fighting (literally) for an education, and there are many are never given the opportunity. You HAVE been given this opportunity! I challenge you to spend the rest of your life finding ways to serve others with the gift that you have so graciously been given, and in whatever capacity the Lord has appointed you to do so.
I always have a difficult time with good-bye’s, so I’ll stick with a genuine “see you around.”
Please know that I am always here for you! I throughly enjoy staying in touch with my readers and providing them with guidance that will help them launch their into their dreams!
Grace & Peace,
Written by: Stasia Rose
First published at www.darlingmagazine.org on October 19, 2017
Images via Michelle Kim
Think about the times when you experienced a genuine connection with someone who wasn’t a romantic partner. Where were you and what were you doing?
Maybe you were driving down the highway together, rocking out to 90’s music. Maybe you were taking a walk around your neighborhood or nursing a glass of wine in one hand and a big bar of dark chocolate in the other. Maybe you took a spontaneous 4-day trip from Florida to Los Angeles with a friend (like I did that one time), traveling across the country and collecting memories and stories along the way.
We live in a digital age. Cellular devices that were once the size (and probably weight) of bricks, now come in hundreds of sleek and lightweight options. Cell phones and apps have become our life lines and our security blankets, our matchmakers and our plus ones.
Let’s be honest, we can hardly walk into a coffee shop or sit in a restaurant without seeing someone with a phone in their hands (or being that person ourselves). Most of us check our phones the very minute we open our eyes in the morning.
These pocket-sized sidekicks are commonly accused of hindering our ability to truly connect with others, and are said to do more harm than good in cultivating genuine relationships.
Today, we’re challenging that concept.
What if technology isn’t the enemy? What if connecting to technology could help us better connect with our loved ones? What if, instead of viewing technology as a hindrance to our relationships, we began seeking out ways to leverage its unique capabilities to deepen our friendships?
Now hold on, I’m not talking about simply double-tapping a friend’s Instagram post, occasionally retweeting an old roommate or leaving a long civil comment on an ex’s Facebook page. I’m talking about using forms of social media to create real and genuine connections that deepen the special bond we share with those we care about.
So, how do we grow in relationship with one another in this digital age?
Here are five free apps that can help us cultivate relationships with our loved ones, no matter how near or far they may be:
1. Roadtrippers Trip Planner
Create an epic road trip with friends that you’ll never forget! Map out each stop, search for hotels along the route, view road trip itineraries, take pictures and make memories. This app will have us sitting in the passenger’s side of our best friend’s ride in no time!
Music has the extraordinary ability to convey some of our most cherished thoughts and emotions, reminding us of seasons past and marking memories in the making. Spotify’s music app allows us to create collaborative playlists and share new and old music with friends. Whatever song we’re vibin’ at the moment, we can instantly share it with our loved ones on Spotify!
This app is, hands-down, one of my favorite not-so-guilty pleasures. In seconds users can create collaborative Pinterest boards with friends. Now we can work together to plan the next vacation or “staycation” adventure. Share recipes, DIY’s, travel destinations and outfit inspirations at the click of a button.
4. Map My Run
With this app we can keep our workout buddies, even if they’re a thousand miles away. Map My Run allows users to view and compare routes with strangers and friends. So go ahead, challenge someone to a workout competition or create a group step challenge … because a little friendly competition can go a long way.
5. Paperless Post
Sending a birthday card to a loved one? Planning to get the gang back together for a much needed framily reunion? This greeting card and event planning app is a must have. Choose from Paperless Post’s digital inventory of cards and invitations, add customized event details and send e-vites directly to friends and families email addresses. This app can even set reminders for when we should send cards to our loved ones each year! With its trendy designs, easy to use interface and built in guest tracking system – it is the perfect house party planning assistant!
I believe that we each have the power to utilize technology in a way that will help us continually cultivate meaningful relationships with our loved ones.
So play on – new stories and adventures await!
Written by: Stasia Rose
First published at www.darlingmagazine.org on October 19, 2017
Images via Michelle Kim
First published on www.QARA.org
Written by: Anastasia Jones
Ever feel like you need a vacation after your vacation? I know it might sound crazy, but you’re not alone.
Recently I returned home on a Sunday evening after a wonderful 5-day vacation. Almost as soon as the plane touched down, waves of anxiety began to wash over me. Monday was only hours away, and I felt completely unprepared.
Thoughts of the enormous workload awaiting my return, both at work and at home, consumed me. I felt frazzled, and completely ill-equipped for the work week ahead.
I was driving home, trying in vain to categorize each of my anxious thoughts when Philippians’s 4:6-7 came to mind: “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
After meditating on these verses, and taking several deep and prayerful breaths, I almost immediately felt the soft waves of God’s peace wash over me. I resolved that I was not going to grant this anxiety power over me, and potentially undo the peaceful rest that I had worked so hard to create over the last five days on vacation.
I chose to respond to my anxiety by creating a new strategy, and so can you.
I made a list of 5 things I could do that evening to help me take on the coming Monday.
These practices didn’t take me long, radically reduce my anxiety levels and had me feeling encouraged and empowered to take on the week ahead
1. CLEAN OUT THE CAR
Take a moment to toss the junk mail, empty your half-full water bottles, wipe the crumbs off the seat and organize the miscellaneous items lying on the floor. Perhaps you could even swing by the gas station to top off your gas tank, and buy a quick car wash. Come Monday morning, you’ll feel less stressed while in route to the office, and if you get stuck in traffic you won’t be nervously glancing at your gas meter.
2. TIDY UP THE KITCHEN
Does your sink have a couple of days’ worth of glasses, plates and coffee mugs in it? Take twenty minutes to clean it out, wipe down the counters and load up the dishwasher. It may seem like a small effort, but when you prepare your coffee/breakfast tomorrow morning you’ll thank yourself for doing it!
3. REVIEW YOUR CALENDAR
Briefly look at your work calendar and make a short list of action items and priorities that you want to accomplish. Remember to set yourself up for success by creating realistic work expectations. You’ve just been out of the office for quite a while and it could take a day or two to catch up on your work.
4. GET ACTIVE
Go for a 30-minute walk, jog or run. It is proven that exercising releases stress, relieves anxiety, improves our overall health and makes us feel good! I recently picked up the hobby of rollerblading around my neighborhood. Not only does the act of physical exercise calm me, but it allows me to meet and greet neighbors and friends that I normally would not see as frequently.
5. PLAN YOUR OUTFIT
Monday’s are the perfect day to dress for success. Looking good and feeling good can kick-start your week off right, and give you that extra boost of confidence you need to take on those back to back meetings like a pro.
In all, completing numbers 1 through 5 took me just under 2 hours, and was worth every minute. I went to sleep swiftly, feeling confident in my ability to take on the morning to come. I recommend you make a checklist, and a few days before you travel attempt to get ahead of them. For instance, you could clean your car out prior to heading to the airport. You could plan your outfit based upon what clothes you don’t pack, that way you know the items will be clean whenever you return.
Ideally, we could all try to incorporate more time between the end of our vacations, and the beginning of a work week; however, when a vacation after a vacation isn’t possible, I recommend doing these 5 things to help you reset and recharge before the work week arrives.
Taking steps that set you up for maximum effectiveness and success is almost always worth it.
Recently, a close friend and I took a spontaneous 4-day trip to Los Angeles. We "hopped off the plane in LAX" around 10PM without a single itinerary, schedule or checklist.
I hear the collective gasps of all of you planners out there. You all are probably breaking into an open sweat just reading about the fact that we had no carefully laid out plan. We knew we had lodging and a car rental covered, and that was enough for us.
We did have ideas of things we wanted to do, and each morning we would spend about 20 minutes talking through where we wanted to go. We looked up addresses, and mapped out a rough order for the day. This strategy really worked well for us, and we were able to do and see so much in such a short period of time - all without being exhausted by the end of the vacation. Winning!
Shortly after our trip, another friend of mine reach out to me for travel recommendations. She was gifting her teenage daughter with a visit to L.A. for the first time and wanted to get a feel for some fun, must-see places they could check out around the city.
I ended up spending over an hour creating two different detailed itineraries, each consisting of things to do with only 1-day in L.A. and 1-day in Southern California. I was sure to add addresses and some miscellaneous notes to make it even more personal.
I absolutely love curating these itineraries after visiting different cities around the world! This one includes some of my all-time favorite places in L.A. Enjoy!
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Los Angeles 1-Day Itinerary
If you only had one day in LA, here’s what I would suggest...
Eggslut in Grand Central Market
317 S Broadway, Los Angeles, CA 90013
or 1611 Pacific Ave, Venice, CA 90291 (this one is closer to the following locations)
Abbott Kinney Blvd
1661 Abbot Kinney Blvd, Venice, CA 90291
Tocaya Organic Venice
1611 Pacific Ave, Venice, CA 90291
Tom's Flagship Store
1344 Abbot Kinney Blvd, Venice, CA 90291
Hollywood Sign, Los Angeles, CA 90068
The Griffith Observatory
2800 E Observatory Rd, Los Angeles, CA 90027
Best Fish Taco in Ensenada
1650 Hillhurst Ave, Los Angeles, CA 90027
If you're wanting to substitute a couple of hours in your day, these two spots are both great places to check out!
Los Angeles Theatre
615 S Broadway, Los Angeles, CA 90014
Santa Monica Pier
1602 Ocean Avenue, Santa Monica, CA 90401
So there you have it! Another 1-day itinerary for your adventure seeking and exploring self! I hope you have the time of your life making memories and meeting new people along the way!
Your fellow wanderer,
Fun Fact: 246 million people in the U.S. and Canada went to the cinema at least once last year? Yes, MILLION - with 6 zeros. That’s nearly 71% of the entire U.S./Canada population in 2016!
According to the Motion Picture Association of America, in 2016 the movie industry reached 11.4 billion dollars in sales, experiencing a 2% growth from the year before.
So what is it that draws all of these people to the cinema each year?
Perhaps it's a combination of curiosity and empathy.
I have always enjoyed watching movies. I am fascinated by being invited into these characters’ realities, following their journeys, and allowing myself to learn with them along the way.
Being able to visualize and identify with characters as they work through challenges, discover and embrace their positive and negative characteristics, and watch as they navigate through difficult situations can inspire us to become more aware of these aspects in our own lives. Bringing us a level of heightened personal awareness and self-reflection that can be a powerful and transformative tool!
I am excited (and a bit nervous) to share a couple of my favorite movies with you!
Each of these movies feature great female leads or female supporting roles and are listed in no particular order. I have learned from each these characters experiences and adventures, and I sincerely believe I am better because of them.
Just to name a few! Those 10 are without a doubt some of my favorites, but there are more where those came from.
Are there any movies with leads, both female and male, that you personally connect with, or have learned something from? Share it with us in the comment box below so we can all check it out!
It was a Tuesday afternoon.
You were visiting the local coffee shop
Sipping on your cold brew
And like magic...
You and an IDEA totally connected.
You didn’t see that coming.
Barely anyone noticed.
But the chemistry was undeniable.
Now, I bet you’re wondering...
I know I would be!
My advice -
Date your idea.
Give it a chance.
Spend some time with it.
Get to know it a little better.
Be open to the possibility that this could really be something.
Date your idea.
It’s okay to write down how you really feel about it.
Fill your diary with little hearts and doodles.
No judgement (we all do it)
That’s part of the fun!
Date your idea.
Have you noticed any good signs?
Any red flags?
Go ahead - write those down too.
Both are very important to consider.
Date your idea.
Now, I know you two have been spending a lot of time together…
I mean, you haven’t been apart for more than an hour.
Try not to get so attached that it clouds your better judgement.
Talk about it with trusted friends & mentors.
Date your idea.
Listen - I really hope it works out!
I mean that.
But there is also a chance that it won’t.
And that’s okay too.
I promise another one will come along
Right when you least expect it.
And when it does, you should date that one too!
We can’t predict the future. We never know what our ideas will become. So let's keep dating them, and remaining open to the possibility that with lots of time, effort and attention, they could really turn into something special!
(Date Your Idea written by Stasia Rose)
There are many longings of the human heart. These longings are powerful and can serve as a common thread, crossing continents and boarders, language barriers and cultures, social classes and traditions, connecting us all.
While the desire to love and be loved is one such common thread, there is another longing that remains ever present within our hearts: the desire to know and be known.
From a young age, we seek to know and be known. This desire is coupled with a yearning to more deeply know and understand ourselves. We spend years of our precious time — and great amounts of our hard earned money — in search of people, experiences, words and phrases that will aid us in this long distance journey of self-discovery. We hike the tallest peaks, parachute out of moving planes and travel to the furthest corners of the globe searching for clues to ourselves. We watch television shows and relate to characters who share similar (or exude seemingly desired) attributes.
We cruise the internet and various social media platforms for quizzes, self-assessments and personality tests, all in an effort to better understand our true natures. These tests and self-assessments only succeed in grouping us into one or more categories; nevertheless, we review our results with the intent of helping us along our quest of defining who we are.
Why do we pursue the external to define the internal? Why do we seek out others’ definition of who we are and so easily adopt their words or phrases as truth?
When we place too much emphasis on what others say, allowing them to tell us who we really are, it can subconsciously cause us to overshadow the empowering and life-giving traits that this world desperately needs its women to embody, embrace and inspire.
Here are five labels, words and phrases which you may have been told in the past and unknowingly accepted as truth. They will require strength, wisdom and self-awareness to break, but you’re not in this alone. With a little love, generosity and an open mind, you can begin to embrace the fullness of the beautiful life you have been given
Label No. 1: “Weird or Out There” to “Innovative and Interesting”
Break the mold by embracing your creativity and uniqueness. View yourself as innovative and interesting! Present your thoughts and art to others in new and unexpected ways that inspire thought and action.
Label No. 2: “Conceited” to “Empathetic”
C.S. Lewis once said, “True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.” Allow this simple quote to influence the way you serve others and see the world.
Label No.3: “Too Opinionated” to “Action-Oriented”
Don’t just talk the talk. Together, let’s impact the world for good by discovering what within it breaks our hearts. Then, respond by finding ways to heal the hurt and pain through our actions.
Label No. 4: “Perfectionist” to “A Risk-Taker Who Learns From Mistakes”
I’ve heard it said, “Strive for progress not perfection.” Perfection is overrated and robs us of the beauty that is only found when we make mistakes and learn from them. Go ahead, take risks and resolve to learn from the inevitable mistakes of life. The world needs more women who are willing to share their lessons of growth with those following a few steps behind.
Label No. 5: “Insecure” to “Self-Accepting”
We all struggle with insecurity in some aspects of our lives. Whether it’s public speaking, finances, physical attributes or career advancement, these insecurities can run deep. Instead of meditating over our insecurities, let’s spend more of our valuable time focusing on our strengths and what we do well. Together, we can lead the world in wholly embracing the skills and talents that make us all unique.
Toni Collette once said “The better you know yourself, the better your relationship with the rest of the world.” The more we begin to embrace what we do well, and continue to develop those gifts and talents, the better we can impact this world for good. Starting today, learn to move forward in spite of the insecurities and fears that have held you back for far too long. The strengths and skills that you have to offer this world far outnumber the weaknesses and insecurities that you might now face.
There is power in our words; the cadence with which we speak of and to ourselves can impact our self-worth for better or worse. The decision to allow any label to bend us until we break is ours. So don’t wait! Beginning today, the labels of your past don’t need to serve you any longer. Know that you were meant to accomplish beautiful and brilliant things. You were meant to inspire others to love, push others to succeed and to accomplish good in this world.
You were meant to shine!
Written by Stasia Rose. First published on www.DarlingMagazine.org on June 21. 2017
To the Fatherless Daughter,
You’re not alone, my dear. Every young woman is born with a strong and sacred love for her father. From birth we have an unexplainable desire to trust him, lean on him and believe the best in him.
The role of a father in the life of his daughter is a sacred one. There is no doubt of the importance of this relationship dynamic. Truth is, every daughter desires to have a special bond with their father; regrettably, not every girl has the chance.
Whether or not your father is absent voluntarily or involuntarily, similar struggles can often present themselves as you move forward and learn to navigate life without him.
Sixteen years ago, I lost my father. As I write this letter, I have lived the majority of my life without him. I was eleven years old when he passed and I was completely unaware of the unique set of challenges that it would create for me over time because of such a heartbreaking and confusing loss.
I, too, have felt the impact of being a fatherless daughter and have seen the ripples of it in my closest relationships, greatest successes and most difficult seasons.
You may not know it now, but one day you will come to realize that this heartbreaking experience will become yet another beautiful and brilliant part of who you are.
My story has created in me a passion for helping other women navigate this shift. I am writing you this letter with the sheer hope that a few of the life lessons I’ve learned along the way will guide you in navigating your own unique journey.
Learn to forgive your father. Learn to forgive yourself.
Do this by remembering the small and perfect moments you spent together. If you were not able to create these memories with your father, I encourage you to write down the lessons that you learned from his legacy instead.
If at all possible, seek out ways to honor your father.
Dedicate one day a year when you meditate on him, spending more of your energy thinking about the things he did right. This can be Father’s Day, or another date that holds significant meaning. You can donate your time to helping other young men and women with similar experiences, write an encouraging letter to your father (even if it’s one you never send) or recreate a sentimental moment that you both shared (like building a bird house or visiting a park).
You may not know it now, but one day you will come to realize that this heartbreaking experience will become yet another beautiful and brilliant part of who you are.
Try to avoid using sarcasm as a shield or a defense mechanism for dealing with the pain.
Instead, speak truth into your life and circumstances. Always seek out the beauty in life and in others. Watch as this begins to chip away at the walls around your heart and lead to greater joy and happiness.
Truth is, the world needs you! The real you. Make the choice today and every day to do the hard work of digging deep and being vulnerable with yourself and with others who seek to understand more you. Learn to identify your feelings and emotions. Call them out. Learn how you feel sadness, anger, loneliness, joy, happiness, contentment and love. Seek out a mentor or counselor who can help you work through these emotions. I did and it made all the difference!
Your vulnerability is what will draw people to you. It’s what makes us all human.
You are lovely. You are simply magnificent. And your scars are a small part of the beautiful mosaic that makes you who you are.
Each day, choose to live a life that will make you happy, a life that a true father would deeply desire his beloved daughter to live. I know it’s hard. Have courage and take heart. Never for one moment be ashamed of your story. Own it. Lean into it. You have the power to change your narrative and transform your story into a force for good that will encourage and inspire others.
I believe with every fiber of my being that we can choose to allow our greatest challenges to hold us back in fear or propel us ever forward in love.
Choose forward. Choose love.
Written by Stasia Rose. First published on www.DarlingMagazine.org on June 18. 2017
When did we learn that blending in and fitting the mold was of paramount importance?
Well, I really believe that these lessons began influencing our actions at a very young age.
Early on in our educational careers, we were introduced to interactive games that encouraged rigid compliance and “knowing our roles”. Games like House, Red Light, Green Light, Follow the Leader, and Simon Says were just a few of these shining examples.
These games (both consciously and subconsciously) taught us to comply, and fit the mold. They even rewarded us with approval, acceptance and applause if we could successfully do both while others were watching.
Whether we realize it or not, continuing to pour our valuable (and limited) time and energy into fitting in can directly hold us back from fully discovering and stepping into our unique callings.
Times are changing, and we must work together to unlearn the mis-educations from our past.
Starting today, try refocusing the lens through which you see the world. Write down your own definition(s) of success. Begin asking the hard questions, doing your own research and coming to your own conclusions. Starting today, begin building your own unique brand. One that sets you a part and shows others just how unique and special you truly are.
You’re Simon now.
What do YOU say?
What are some other successful traits of productive people?
I don't need a cape or supernatural powers to be a superhero - and neither do you!
All you need is this one simple trait shared by superhero's and successful businessmen & women alike, which is:
The ability to anticipate or expect problems and trends, and then collaborate to create innovative solutions.
Over the years, I have had the honor of working alongside some phenomenal individuals and it's true, the ability to anticipate trends, expect problems and collaborate with others in order to create innovative solutions is a superpower that both hero's and successful young professionals share.
The good news about this superpower is that it's free, and you can begin practicing it today. Your boss, spouse, family, friends and coworkers will thank you for it! Sure, it may take some time to get the hang of it, but I know that you can do it!
Keep at it and don't give up! Believe in yourself, and watch as you make a positive impact on this world.
What are other superpowers that you believe young professionals should learn?
We've all been there. Fresh out of the formal education system and asking ourselves one not-so-simple question..."what's next?"
I spent 6 consecutive (and very formative) years pursuing my undergraduate and master's degree before I entered the corporate world full-time, and you know what? I still find myself asking the same not-so-simple question from all those years before..."what's next?" High school and college don't last forever (even though it may feel like it at times).
Truth is, no matter how much information I learned in the classroom (and trust me, I learned a lot), I still believe that all of the textbooks in the world couldn't have prepared me for what it was REALLY like to launch into my career and work that 9:00 - 5:00 grind. I managed to do it pretty well (with minimal personal casualties). I've learned a lot. Hell...I'm STILL learning.
I've never been more convinced that our careers, our lives even, consist largely of a series of choices - setbacks and successes that we cannot anticipate. But take heart, we’re not as helpless as we may think. Choice is a powerful thing, and the solution to successfully navigating life is simple - choose to do what's in front of you, and learn to do it well. If your bosses, coworkers, and friends are in front of you, treat them well. If a new job or project is in front of you, complete it well. If your loved ones are in front of you, love them well. Choose to be kind to yourself. Choose to take things one day at a time.
I've never been more convinced that our careers, our lives even, consist largely of a series of choices - setbacks and successes that we cannot anticipate.
So here it is. A digital space. A sanctuary of sorts that will serve as your dose of encouragement. Your very own guidance counselor. Your go-to for real world young professional advice that I hope will help you to succeed early on in your career.
I invite you to learn and laugh along with me! These blog posts are all things I have either 1. personally experienced, 2. read about 3. would like to do or 4. have actually done. You may not know which category these posts fall under, but even if you do - try not to judge me too harshly for it ;)
In This Together,
If you're having a hard time figuring out how to move forward with a problem or project - the solution is simple!
Find something to love!
Love changes everything!
If you're in business and having a hard time moving your project forward, then find a new way to love your customers. Reconnect with them. Learn more about their wants and needs. Doing this can help you craft a creative product or innovative solution that will deeply resonate with the end-user.
If you're a writer, and having a difficult time crafting your story, begin again by falling in love with your audience. Meditate on the positive impact your words will make in their lives. Own the topic, and take joy in communicating it effectively and in a new and compelling way!
Finding something to love will grant you a new lens through which to view and solve the initial challenge or idea. So go ahead - find something to love today!
Summer in Florida is back again, and the t-shirts, crop tops and flip flops have slowly begun awakening from their short lived hibernation.
Just days ago I was able to finally unfold one of my favorite T's, and was once again reminded of the undeniable impact that my favorite non-profit continues to make on the surrounding community!
Top Buttons is a 501 (c)(3) in Lakeland, FL that is passionate about build self-esteem in young women through fashion. Top Buttons provides full wardrobe makeovers, and hosts/facilitates educational events and seminars for young women who may have come from difficult backgrounds, inspiring them to see their true beauty and worth undefined by their past hurts & difficult experiences.
TB has been warmly received by this charming little city-town called Lakeland, and thousands upon thousands of individuals and organizations continue to rally around this cause through hosting fundraising events and purchasing clothing at TB's newest upscale clothing boutique location downtown.
Some of my readers have asked me how I became involved in Top Buttons, so I thought I would write a little blog post about my experience for all to see!
Let me take you back to a particularly warm day in March 2012....
...actually, let's go back to 2007 first :)
I have always been particularly ambitious. During my freshman year of college I registered on my universities career portal looking for employers interested in hiring young talent.
Fast forward 3 years, and it's my junior year of college. My university was hosting a leadership forum, there were an estimated 700 people in attendance and I believe George W. Bush and his wife were slated to speak at this particular event. In order to pull off a massive undertaking like this, a large number of volunteers were needed and willingly jumped into the fray (myself included)!
On the first or second day of the forum, a woman approached me asking for a hair tie. The A/C in the room was covered by a couple of massive screens, and the temperature inside the room was rising fast. This woman had a glorious head full of curls, which looked to be contributing to her rising body temperature. She was also about 7 months pregnant at the time with her precious son Graham,
I promptly set off to find a hair tie, and returned with a rubber band which she willingly and gratefully accepted without skipping a beat! I asked her name, it was Sarah. She asked me mine, and we got to chatting, eventually deciding to add each other on Facebook.
Fast foward 2 years...
I received a phone call from a local number that I did not recognize. I answered a bit hesitantly, and heard "Hi Anastasia. This is Sarah Powers. Do you remember me by chance?" and in fact, I did! Sarah had found my number via my universities online portal, and after typing in her search criteria, recognized my name on the resume I had posted almost 5 years before! It's simply wild and absolutely no coincidence!
We got to talking, and she told me all about her heart for young women, and her desire to launch a movement that will empower them to recognize and embrace their true worth and beauty!
Sarah had it all planned out, and would use fashion as a medium to accomplish this goal!
I wasn't particularly into the latest fashion trends, BUT I had quite a large network of well-educated and inspiring college students that I knew would LOVE to be a part of something so new and exciting!
And the rest is history! Our small team started meeting at Starbucks once or twice a week well after the sun had set and meet for 2-3 hours at a time. It was only the beautiful beginning!
Back to present day...
Top Buttons is thriving! I have never been more convinced of the positive impact and the overwhelming need that it has continued to meet in this city.
Currently I serve on the Board of Top Buttons, and it has been such a joy playing a small role in this inspiring and life changing organization.
For all my young professionals out there, one of the best things that you can do early on in your career is to donate your time toward a cause that's greater than yourself. I believe there is something positive that happens in our hearts and minds when we are able to see a need and meet it! We gain a new perspective, and a more developed world view. We are also able to network along the way (and networking can always lead to better and brighter opportunities).
We have a responsibility to help make this world a better place! Let's have fun and do it together! Subscribe below to have the latest updates delivered to your inbox!
You can Join the TB movement by visiting their website and donating here!
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I have only a few memories left of my father.
Most of them are small moments. Moments in time I didn’t realize I would cherish so deeply and unknowingly choose to bring with me into adulthood. Even now, 18 years after his passing, I continue to re-discover new moments with him that teach me more about life. More about people. More about family and faith. More about myself.
In this particular memory I was young, no more than 7 or 8 years old, and riding in the back seat of the car with my brother and step-siblings. I honestly don’t remember where we were going, but I had my brother and my father with me and I was happy.
I was a quiet, inquisitive and introspective child, which is probably why I loved sitting in the window seat during car rides. I used to (and still do) look out the window, and contently consider everything – the trees, the sky, the birds, the people, and on occasion the road kill.
On this particular car ride with my father, my eyes drifted to a strange series of ridges that appeared to be grafted into the pavement beside the car. We must have been on a highway because were driving fast, but no matter how fast we drove these dark ridges seemed to be keeping pace with us.
My small voice spoke up as I asked “Dad, what are these bumps on the side of the road?” His response to this question is what remains branded in my mind over 20 years later.
My father heard me, and without skipping a beat, slowly steered the car toward the right – getting closer and closer to the strange ridges until one or two tires ran over them completely.
The vibration of the rubber tires meeting the mysterious bumps in the road literally shook me - filling my ears with sound and my body with adrenaline. It took me completely by surprise. My father then explained to me that those bumps on the roadside were meant to warn drivers if/when they start to drive off the road. They were there to encourage drivers to return to their lanes.
A simple lesson but he showed me, THEN told me - and I never forgot.
Whenever you have the chance – show them, then tell. You never know what kind of lasting impression it could leave on someone whose watching.
Thank you Dad. I really mean that. I was so young, and I don’t believe that I said it enough, but I can say it again now.
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Florida, the queen state of the coastlines. It might just be the only state where you can drive east, west or south and have a 100% guarantee of reaching ocean.
I often ask myself how I got here. How did this New England girl venture so far from her childhood home? From lakes and mountains and one-red-light towns, to oceans and beaches and highways full of tourists.
The simple answer? Through hard work, favor and a series of wild opportunities.
Opportunity is as vast as the ocean for receiver, seeker or a creator alike.
And like the oceans waves, the repetitive (and sometimes painful) crashing is inevitable – but so are the treasures that you will discover through exploring the deep.
So jump in, make mistakes and learn from the crashing tides. Choose to treasure the beauty of the life you will be working hard to cultivate along the way.
Each day, the ocean sky experiences an equal chance of sun and storm, and so do we. In a moment, calm seas can become volatile. High winds and rain can seem to threaten your equilibrium and hard work – but take heart. Every setback is a setup for a comeback.
And with time, the sun will break through the stormy clouds and shine on you again!
Sweet Potatoes - I definitely should have added them to the list of things that will bring about world peace.
Who doesn't love the sweet deliciousness of a beautifully roasted sweet potato? (That's a rhetorical question for all you anti-sweet potato people).
I'm not going to say we saved the best recipe for last - but I will say that you have earned every single bite of this scrumptious meal after making your way through the entire 5 day Healthy Recipe series!
A Healthy THANK YOU to Victoria Sgro, the lovely mastermind behind each and every one of these delicious recipes! You are truly a lovely soul, and it has been the most simple pleasure cooking along with you over the last 5 days.
If you want to read even more delicious recipes, don't forget to check out www.ahintofgarlic.com and subscribe to get first dibs on even more tasty recipes!
Until next time <3
Kale, Sun Dried Tomato, Goat Cheese & Bacon
Hey, I'm Stasia Rose and I teach newbie bloggers build, launch and grow successful blogs of their own.
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